Taking into consideration the context of judges' comments, I can only think of two instances in seven seasons where I thought the wrong person was eliminated. One of them really irritated me but happily, the person who skated did not go on to win. The other instance (a different season) took place much later in the competition and it seemed to be a closer call, so I didn't find it as irritating.
I don't see anything innately mean in assigning the contestants increasingly difficult technical challenges but doing so does make the viewing less enjoyable for me because watching several people fail at making something isn't a particularly enjoyable experience. After all, this isn't
Nailed It, which I watched once before tiring of it.
However, watching the contestants accomplish something difficult is more rewarding than watching them accomplish something easy, so I understand it's a tough line to straddle. The private banter between the judges as they jokingly delight in the Technical's degree of difficulty feels benign to me, especially in light of how the judges interact with the contestants. It never seems personal and they're plenty kind. On top of that, pretty regularly one of the judges admits to not ever having heard of the item assigned in the Technical, which indicates that there's no shame in the contestants not knowing, either. It just doesn't add up to meanness for me.
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By protecting others, you save yourself. If you only think of yourself, you'll only destroy yourself. --Kambei Shimada
Every human interaction is an opportunity for disappointment --RS
There's a horse loose in a hospital --JM
That don't impress me much --Shania Twain