This is such a crazy post and also a case study in narcissism and abuse.

dagrassroots wrote:This is such a crazy post and also a case study in narcissism and abuse.

lol, yeah, especially the timing. smh

bnowell724 wrote:I support your right to make amends and to forgiveness and compassion, and to move on.

I think the following statement from your post is odd and I disagree that violence against another person requires more than one occurrence to qualify as 'abuse'.

However, it is false that I physically abused anyone and that the restaurant closed due to this event (one act of violence doesn't constitute as abuse...

Everyone can have their opinions. Moreover, the punishment should fit the crime. Its going on three years. Time to move on. Not forget, but move on.

JakeBickelhaupt wrote:Everyone can have their opinions. Moreover, the punishment should fit the crime. Its going on three years. Time to move on. Not forget, but move on.

I can think of nothing that has prolonged this story or turned more people against you than you filing your lawsuit. Drop the lawsuit and there will be nothing left to talk about. Even on this site, which talks about nothing other than food, 95% of it in Chicago, nobody had mentioned you for four months when you and your friend decided to post yesterday to paint you as the victim.

That said, I appreciate that you seem to want to talk about it. Open and honest dialogue is always helpful. And as someone who has spoken out against you on this Board and in my personal life, I have some questions in hopes of continuing the conversation and giving you the opportunity to clear up some factual questions and explain things better.

1) In the violent incident, is the reporting correct that you hit your ex-wife in the head with a bottle?

2) Did she, as reported, need stitches for the wound?

3) Do you have a transcript of the court proceeding you can post to back up your claim that the judge was so complimentary towards you? I'd love to read it.

4) What is the basis for your claim that hitting someone one time does not count as abuse? What is the number that, in your mind, makes it abuse?

5) You and your friend tout the foundation you established. The foundation's instagram account is private and the website appears to be down. What, specifically, has your foundation done in furtherance of its mission to "support the culinary industry by raising awareness of how substance abuse & emotional health affect chefs in the kitchen"?

6) If your goal really is to move on from this and have the public only think about your cooking and not the more sordid parts of your life, why not drop the lawsuit? I'm not asking why you think you're right or why the lawsuit is justified. I'm saying, assuming that you would win, if your goal really is to move on, what's the point of engaging in litigation that is going to repeatedly give the press an excuse to talk about you as a wife-beater rather than as a chef?

Thanks

MarlaCollins'Husband wrote:this site, which talks about nothing other than food

This topic presents plenty of evidence against that contention.

I can go to many restaurants where there is no documentation of the chef beating his wife.

That will always be my choice.

I find the argument that hitting someone just once doesn't constitute abuse completely nauseating.

Giovanna